Linda Russell

Adoption education, consulting for quality of life

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God's Chaos Candidate: Donald J. Trump and the American Unraveling by [Wallnau, Lance]

Make no mistake, the gnawing concern you have about the future of our nation is not delusional. America is already in turmoil. When Jeb Bush referred to Donald Trump as “the chaos candidate” he may have been tapping into something more prophetic than he realized. Transformational teacher and thought leader, Dr. Lance Wallnau, offers a timely prophetic blueprint into the state of America and offers a proposed solution that would tip the scales in favor of the nation fulfilling its divine assignment.

In this book you will:

Be awakened to the state of chaos in America that impacts you and your family — learn how your voice can help shape the future.

Discover what America’s “Fourth Crucible” is and how this catalytic moment in history can either make or break the nation.

Receive a vision of hope about America’s unfinished assignment and how this is your call to both prayer and action.

Tune Into the prophetic words about how Donald Trump is a “Cyrus” candidate who would be a wrecking ball to political correctness.

What to Expect If Adopting

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canstockphoto2308184Adoption offers a new life in a new family. New beginnings offer hope for a new future. Adoption indicates a wonderful beginning and time for healing of a child who needs a family. Most of the time adoption includes a wonderful answer for both the parents and the child.

“If it’s too good to be true, it probably is.”  Human beings strive to get needs met. Sometimes meeting needs takes longer than expected. When it takes too long (according to expectation) to get the need met one way, ingenuity or opportunity may be used to get the need met a different way. Just as Abraham and Sarah experienced with the birth of Ismael through Sarah’s servant (today her servant would known as a surrogate). We know how that turned out.  In the case of a child whose parents or family need rehabilitation, financial assistance, or stability, adoption is a common intervention. In the same way when an infertile person exhausts attempts to become fertile, adoption is a common intervention. Adoption, the panacea for the unmet needs of an “orphan” and infertile person. Not to minimize the amount of money, time, and emotional roller coaster that the adoption process typically entails, this sounds a little too good to be true.

How can meeting the needs of a child through the adoption process be anything but good? How can making parents of someone who has been told they will not be able to conceive or have anymore children be anything but good? When it isn’t good, that’s when. As an adoptive parent shared the other day, “we need far more education than we receive” before completing an adoption. Commonly, adoptive families second guess themselves on whether or not the adoption was a good decision, after the adoption is completed. Second guessing happens when a child doesn’t “feel” like their child; when a child doesn’t behave in a manageable way as a toddler, adolescent, tween or teen; when the realization arises that the child has attachment challenges. Or even when, in an adoption where the information has been shared between the biological family and adoptive family, the adoptive family no longer wants contact. Biological mothers may drop from sight after agreeing to stay in the child’s life. So many variables exist in adoption, and absolutely no guarantees (as with all of life).

How can adoption be a good option when the circumstances require a child to be raised by a nonbiological family? Five ways to know that adoption is a good option.Continue Reading

Funding Adoption

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Adoptiocanstockphoto16629495n funding sites epitomize the essence of child trafficking. Contributing or hosting an adoption funding site supports the idea of taking children from their families and children out of their cultures, creating identity confusion and a lifetime of trauma. Caring about children allows them to be financed in their own families, in their own cultures and helping children stay where their identity has been established. Orphanages in other countries need funding, not children taken. Many families have children in the orphanages because that is the only way they can take care of them and still have them in their lives.


For the love of God, please stop the adoption funding and stop taking children from their families. Help them. Identify a child or children and help them with the money that would be spent on adopting. Send the money regularly. That money will go much further toward a child growing up healthy, educated and giving back to their own culture to make things better in their country. Help families domestically to keep their children, mentor them with parenting skills, help them with housing, help them with taking care of their children while they get their lives together. Please stop taking children that God has placed where He has placed them and believing that adoption is doing something “better” for them than what God intended.

Read Exodus 2 and see how that works out, even when the baby was going to be killed.

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A Not So Perfect Solution for Your Baby

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Adoption offers a “perfect solution” for a baby whose mom isn’t ready to raise a child. Adoptive families offer better financial circumstances, “stability,” opportunity for college education, an “intact” family, and happiness that mom (who isn’t ready to parent) cannot offer. Statements such as these are often used in advertising on adoption sites. However, these phrases offer eloquence in the wording to entice moms to consider placing their child with a loving family, albeit strangers.

Looking back on a lifetime of pain and complete regret, advice from this side of the world comes easy. Looking back from the current vantage point the change in life circumstances, overcoming those temporary circumstances seems so certain and obvious. However, when mom begins the journey of making decisions about an unplanned pregnancy, the present and current circumstances give an essence of never ending. Stress, anxiety, uncertainty, lack of familiarity, and the involvement of others about something that feels so personal becomes a difficult matter.

A few points follow to help you begin to bring perspective on the frantic feelings you may have.

1) First of all, put off freaking out until after some decisions are made. This is critical because you feel like freaking out. But think about it, freaking out will not change the pregnancy and will only cause you to feel much worse. So put it off and go to your calendar. Set a date (make it at least a week or two out) to freak out. Now you have it on your calendar and you have given yourself permission to freak out at that time.

2) Understand, this is your baby you are carrying. Babies are their own individual human selves. They are not a “part” of you, they are now another human being. Your baby is shared by the person you were with when your baby was conceived. However that circumstance may not be a pleasant one. You may have difficulty considering the involvement of the other person. Right now, making the decision about the involvement of the other person isn’t critical. You have a baby to nurture and protect.

3) Do your research on your options. As pointed out earlier, going to an adoption site and talking to someone at an adoption agency can result in no further research. What does that mean? It means that an adoption attorney or an adoption representative will tell you that adoption is the very best solution for you and your baby. However, they will continue to state that it is your choice. If the father of your baby happens to be at risk for as a good parent, all the more reason for the agency to encourage you to place your baby. However, adoption agents are NOT about your best interests, nor about your baby’s best interests. You are a supplier of the product that commands a lot of money from adoptive couples who desperately want children. In fact, that agency and private adoption attorney can offer you quite a bit of money for living expenses and help you with your financial indebtedness. An exchange of money for your baby is selling your baby. You can get resources and helpful support. If money is what you need, you can get help.

4) Find someone you can trust to confide in. Friends may or may not be your first point of contact. There is an organization, Family Preservation Outreach, linda@familypreservationoutreach.com, who will talk with you and help you in this unplanned circumstance. Of course, the options out there are: parent your baby, place your baby, allow guardianship arrangement, or even find a doctor to do an abortion. Getting educated on these options is critical because you are making a life altering choice.

5) Getting counseling will help you with any guilt or shame you may feel. While these emotional responses come naturally they can impose another layer of anxiety and stress, unproductive energy. When more anxiety happens, it’s impossible to make a good decision.

Before making a decision, remember time is on your side. Research, talk to people who have truly been there (you don’t have to tell them your circumstances), read books, articles, and get some good counseling help. Letting someone tell you that you MUST make a decision now, make up your mind, or pressure you in any way, will not result in a decision that you can feel good about later.

You will get through this and you can get through this with a good life decision. Next article on threats or circumstances of having your child removed from your care.